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Shades of Pleasure Podcast

Episode 7: What is a Monogamy Hangover? And... What's the Remedy?

October 6, 2024

Welcome to Season 1, Episode 7, Shades of Pleasure

Four sexologists open up about life, love and the pursuit of consensual non monogamy.

Four sexologists answer the question: what is a “monogamy hangover?” What happens when we try to incorporate monogamous ideals into non-monogamous ways of relating with others and being? How does this cause misalignments? Much like a hangover, we might bring over jealousy, possession, ownership, feeling threatened when our partner meets someone else- we often default to the things that didn’t serve us in monogamous relationships- perhaps we fear vulnerability, or perhaps some of this is conditioned, or perhaps we have a fear of being judged, perhaps we carry shame from the past.

How do you “cure the hangover?” Especially with limited support systems and or misinformation coming from “pop culture?” The question- are you choosing to acknowledge what comes up for you? What parts of monogamy do serve you in your non-monogamous relationships? We do have the freedom to look at these tropes and decide how they may or may not serve us. We can be mindful of the choices we make in our relationships. We can learn new ways of relating, and of being vulnerable.

Listen to this episode to discover the “remedy” for your “hangovers.”

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